Are you registered to vote and will you vote this November? My answer is yes. It is our right to vote but our duty to vote also. You cannot complain if you dont vote! It doesnt matter who you vote for but please vote. It is something most people all over the world do not have the privelage of doing.
Also when voting know your facts... Understand why your voting and what for. Being black or white is not the issue and is very ignornat if thats why you vote one way or the other. Vote for who will better benefit you and your life.
In my opinion it seems that I tend to vote for the lesser of two evils and all politicians are corrupt and will honestly do what they want once in office but as a christian I pray for our politicians. I vote for the best of the two and pray... lol... I pray for them to make the right decisions according to what is best for "the people" and I feel we all should do this.
Im not pushing religion on anyone and hope that if you read this maybe it will help you better undersand me and how I think as an American. I hope that you will vote and understand how important it is. I hope one day these rights will still be availiable for my children and grandchildren becasue each day our rights are slowly being taken away and controlled by our government. I want my children to have a country where they can go to college, have a job, and live the real american dream. So if you want some of these things to Vote !
Thursday, October 18, 2012
Tuesday, October 16, 2012
People and your pregnancy
I'm on my second pregnancy and something still bothers me... People making comments on how your showing and touching my belly without asking.
I'm not one to mind friends and family touching my belly without asking but I do mind strangers at walmart coming up to me and touching my belly. Older people are the worst I do believe and it weirds me out. I don't like to be rude but I don't think I am if I tell you not to touch me because they were rude first by not asking! Walmart is obviously just an example but any place out in public. I don't want your germs and its just plain rude!
Then there are the ridiculous comments... Wow are you having twins? Or when are you due because you look like you might pop any day? My favorite lately has been "Your huge". What a way to make someone feel embarrassed. Especially from perfect strangers!
I do realize I was big with my daughter towards the end and bed rest did not help and I'm going through this once again but I'm already emotional as it is and most people do know preggers are likely to be sensitive or "overly emotional" and it would be nice for people to realize its not nice whether it was intended to be or not.
Oh I forgot the other comment... Wow you look really tired and miserable; are you ok? Lord how this one just really grates my cheese... People shut up and just walk away. Or just say how are you doing these days? I'm aware of my bags under my eyes, hair isn't fixed, and that I'm getting no sleep and running after a 2 year old all day and I'm on bed rest. Thanks for the memo but your a little late!!!!!!
Have people forgotten to common courtesy and if you have nothing nice to say don't say anything at all?
Well that's all I have for today on this issue!
Just another day in paradise!
I'm not one to mind friends and family touching my belly without asking but I do mind strangers at walmart coming up to me and touching my belly. Older people are the worst I do believe and it weirds me out. I don't like to be rude but I don't think I am if I tell you not to touch me because they were rude first by not asking! Walmart is obviously just an example but any place out in public. I don't want your germs and its just plain rude!
Then there are the ridiculous comments... Wow are you having twins? Or when are you due because you look like you might pop any day? My favorite lately has been "Your huge". What a way to make someone feel embarrassed. Especially from perfect strangers!
I do realize I was big with my daughter towards the end and bed rest did not help and I'm going through this once again but I'm already emotional as it is and most people do know preggers are likely to be sensitive or "overly emotional" and it would be nice for people to realize its not nice whether it was intended to be or not.
Oh I forgot the other comment... Wow you look really tired and miserable; are you ok? Lord how this one just really grates my cheese... People shut up and just walk away. Or just say how are you doing these days? I'm aware of my bags under my eyes, hair isn't fixed, and that I'm getting no sleep and running after a 2 year old all day and I'm on bed rest. Thanks for the memo but your a little late!!!!!!
Have people forgotten to common courtesy and if you have nothing nice to say don't say anything at all?
Well that's all I have for today on this issue!
Just another day in paradise!
Saturday, September 29, 2012
Cooking is my passion
Lately I've been doing alot more cooking and receipe testing. If you are on my facebook you see the pics and my post. I've been very stressed lately and even though standing up and cooking causes me to have contractions and me to get very tired I love it. It helps me think and get my mind off things.
Cooking is a love of mine that I've had since I could reach the stove. One good thing my mom did was teach me the basis of cooking. Over the years when we were speaking I taught her things she did not know. Now that I'm married with kids I realized the importance of a good healthy meal with family. I grew up eating different things where as my husband grew up eating complete southern soul food. Im used to this but it wasnt often my mom cooked those things cuz it tends to be quite unhealthy. But im improvisimg by using different ingredients that are better for us but the deliver the same great taste amd home feeling.
Creating these receipes and making them for my husband and others brings me great joy. I love to see someone get excited to eat my food. Food is a great comfort to many and to me as well but making it is the best. Knowing that I can fix food and warm peoples heart and soul is something that is truly indescribable.
Jokingly my husband once told me if all else failed in our marriage my cooking would be enough for him to still love me and stay. LOL.
A dream of mine is to open a resturaunt one day. I started long ago writing down receipes and perfecting them so that one day maybe I could make this dream come true. I figured that it would be after my husband is done with his marine corp career and our kids are out of the house and we have settled down in one area for our life.
One day many years from now you hear of a place called "Brandi's Southern Delight" that will be me and stop by and eat!
Just another day in paradise!
Cooking is a love of mine that I've had since I could reach the stove. One good thing my mom did was teach me the basis of cooking. Over the years when we were speaking I taught her things she did not know. Now that I'm married with kids I realized the importance of a good healthy meal with family. I grew up eating different things where as my husband grew up eating complete southern soul food. Im used to this but it wasnt often my mom cooked those things cuz it tends to be quite unhealthy. But im improvisimg by using different ingredients that are better for us but the deliver the same great taste amd home feeling.
Creating these receipes and making them for my husband and others brings me great joy. I love to see someone get excited to eat my food. Food is a great comfort to many and to me as well but making it is the best. Knowing that I can fix food and warm peoples heart and soul is something that is truly indescribable.
Jokingly my husband once told me if all else failed in our marriage my cooking would be enough for him to still love me and stay. LOL.
A dream of mine is to open a resturaunt one day. I started long ago writing down receipes and perfecting them so that one day maybe I could make this dream come true. I figured that it would be after my husband is done with his marine corp career and our kids are out of the house and we have settled down in one area for our life.
One day many years from now you hear of a place called "Brandi's Southern Delight" that will be me and stop by and eat!
Just another day in paradise!
Wednesday, September 19, 2012
2year olds/ craziness and preggo
Angry, frustrated, and possibly misunderstood; the 2 year olds life. My life 7 months pregnant and pending strict bedrest. What a joy! My husband and I do our best to watch our language and when elizabeth gets angry her first word to say is Damnit. I tell her thats a bad word and tell her no for saying the word. Next step is washing her mouth out with soap and it worked on me as child. I started sept 12 with naked potty training... She is doing good and it is now sept 19th... She only wears diapers at night and when we go out in to town. Elizabeth being my first I had no idea how hard teaching a child everything really is. The fear am I doing this right, is she gonna turn out ok, and did we teach her everything I'm supposed to. With a second child on the way I worry about can I give them both the attention they need? There is only one of me and eric works so the majority of raising them is left up to me. He comes home and gets to be "Daddy the hero" and im the bad mommy most days. Tired, stressed, and always hoping im doing this "mom thing" right.
Had you asked me 4 years ago whether I wanted kids; Id laughed and said Hell NO! Back in the day I would leave a restaurant if I heard screming kids or babies. I absolutely hated children. Then I fell in love with eric, got married, and 9 months later became pregnant. Funny thing what love makes you do. The women in his family wasted no time becoming pregnant after marriage becasue they all loved kids. We did the same but it was not planned and it took me most of the pregnancy to come to terms with it. I do not personally believe in abortion minus the exception for rape, incest by family, or the pregnancy will harm the mother. So it took me a while to be happy about "being with child".
Becoming a mom has become one of the favorite things Ive done in life. I just pray I am good at it and one day possibly be a great mom. Praying my kids will think this of me.
Loving life even though lately its been extra hard.
Just another day in paradise!
Had you asked me 4 years ago whether I wanted kids; Id laughed and said Hell NO! Back in the day I would leave a restaurant if I heard screming kids or babies. I absolutely hated children. Then I fell in love with eric, got married, and 9 months later became pregnant. Funny thing what love makes you do. The women in his family wasted no time becoming pregnant after marriage becasue they all loved kids. We did the same but it was not planned and it took me most of the pregnancy to come to terms with it. I do not personally believe in abortion minus the exception for rape, incest by family, or the pregnancy will harm the mother. So it took me a while to be happy about "being with child".
Becoming a mom has become one of the favorite things Ive done in life. I just pray I am good at it and one day possibly be a great mom. Praying my kids will think this of me.
Loving life even though lately its been extra hard.
Just another day in paradise!
Tuesday, August 21, 2012
Things people dont talk about
Being a military wife there are things we go through that do not get discussed. Most will agree things are hard but not everyone tells you what to look forward to or what you might go through. We want to be viewed as strong, intelligent, and equal to our husbands because we go through as much as they do but in different ways. As much as I agree with this to a point we need to talk about things more openly. No this isn't about sex! Lol...
Having a newborn and your husband has been home from war less than 5 days. This issue ways heavily on me because I've been there and it was one of the hardest things we went through as a family. He came home the night of the 13 of june 2010 but it was at midnight so the 14th. That monday we saw family and then next morning tuesday the 15th I started having contractions and my water broke at 530pm. We arrived at Naval Hospital Camp Lejeune at 630pm. I delivered my daughter at 1238 am June 16th 2010. We went home on the 18th and it began. My husband was having nightmares, got lost and couldn't find his way home, and then the silence. He wouldn't talk to me, he had nothing to do with elizabeth unless he had too, and well he started drinking and was out of control.
He was home and happy but wanted to go back to war. You must be thinking how could he but it happens alot. My husband had the opportunity to come home early on advon in anticipation of me having elizabeth early due to complications. I did deliver her at 36 and a half weeks and he made it just in time. She had waited for her dad to come home and to my surprise he didn't know how to be a dad or my husband when he returned. It was all to real and overwhelming he later told me. He had lost a lot of brothers over in afghanistan and he felt guilty for leaving early and didn't know how to deal with his feelings. I did not understand why he seemed like he didn't love me or elizabeth but I did know I couldnt deal with his problems, a newborn, and my crying all the time for no reason.
I now know I had PPD post pardum depression and I wasn't crazy for feeling like I wanted to jump off a cliff. Eric refused to wake up and help me at night, during day I would take a shower and he would let elizabeth scream until I got out of shower and tended to her, and he wouldn't look at me or even kiss me for quite a while. This was so frustrating for me because he would not tell me what was wrong. After an explosion from him one evening he left for the evening and returned to only leave again. I just knew he was leaving me and didn't know why. A few days later he came home and told me that he loved us but couldn't be what I needed him to be and he would eventually explain when he could. After a few months of him being in counseling he finally spoke.
He never wanted to hurt us but he was struggling to deal with afghanistan and the loss of his buddies. He didn't know how to be back in civilian life after going with no shower for 6 months and living like somewhat of an animal as he compared it to. He had never held a baby until elizabeth, he was scared he would drop and break her, and he felt REJECTED! Wow yes REJECTED. He was not around for my pregnancy and had not been involved or here. I was huge and different when he returned and it was a shock. Then 2 days later we were parents not just husband and wife anymore. He didn't know how to love me with her around. We were not alone and new parents; lost with no guide book on what to do with this little baby. I'll admit we were not ready to be parents but we were. I spent all my time feeding, bathing, changing diapers, and being a mom and he felt left out. I tried spending time with him but then she cried. It was back to mom duty and when done he was asleep. He would come home from work to a wife who hadn't gotten a chance to shower and had been puked on and looked like hell. I'd give her to him and get a shower and finish cooking dinner and he would do what he could but it was hopeless. It was christmas before we really started back trying to be married again.
We didn't know how to make time for each other and he needed to bond with his daughter but he wanted his wife more because I was familiar and had come first. I never knew it could possibly turned out the way things did when he came home from that first deployment. We still loved each other but it was hard. I loved being a mom and a wife but my husband was suffering. Elizabeth was 6 months old the first time I left her alone with him because he was scared of her; scared of not knowing what to do and how to be a dad. The marine corp tell them what to do, when to do it, and how to do it. And he didn't know how to take care of her because there was no one to tell him what to do and make decisions for him. So I left her and told him a few things to do and hoped it would go okay. He needed a push and needed my trust. Obviously it all worked out but my point of this story is this stuff happens and its okay to discuss it. I wish someone could have warned me or given me a little insight that this stuff happens and its okay and will get better.
So to wives in military if you find yourself or someone you know silent, withdrawn, and overwhelmed with being a new mom and having a husband home from war. Tell her its ok and tell her its okay to talk about there is nothing to be ashamed of.
Just another day in paradise!
Having a newborn and your husband has been home from war less than 5 days. This issue ways heavily on me because I've been there and it was one of the hardest things we went through as a family. He came home the night of the 13 of june 2010 but it was at midnight so the 14th. That monday we saw family and then next morning tuesday the 15th I started having contractions and my water broke at 530pm. We arrived at Naval Hospital Camp Lejeune at 630pm. I delivered my daughter at 1238 am June 16th 2010. We went home on the 18th and it began. My husband was having nightmares, got lost and couldn't find his way home, and then the silence. He wouldn't talk to me, he had nothing to do with elizabeth unless he had too, and well he started drinking and was out of control.
He was home and happy but wanted to go back to war. You must be thinking how could he but it happens alot. My husband had the opportunity to come home early on advon in anticipation of me having elizabeth early due to complications. I did deliver her at 36 and a half weeks and he made it just in time. She had waited for her dad to come home and to my surprise he didn't know how to be a dad or my husband when he returned. It was all to real and overwhelming he later told me. He had lost a lot of brothers over in afghanistan and he felt guilty for leaving early and didn't know how to deal with his feelings. I did not understand why he seemed like he didn't love me or elizabeth but I did know I couldnt deal with his problems, a newborn, and my crying all the time for no reason.
I now know I had PPD post pardum depression and I wasn't crazy for feeling like I wanted to jump off a cliff. Eric refused to wake up and help me at night, during day I would take a shower and he would let elizabeth scream until I got out of shower and tended to her, and he wouldn't look at me or even kiss me for quite a while. This was so frustrating for me because he would not tell me what was wrong. After an explosion from him one evening he left for the evening and returned to only leave again. I just knew he was leaving me and didn't know why. A few days later he came home and told me that he loved us but couldn't be what I needed him to be and he would eventually explain when he could. After a few months of him being in counseling he finally spoke.
He never wanted to hurt us but he was struggling to deal with afghanistan and the loss of his buddies. He didn't know how to be back in civilian life after going with no shower for 6 months and living like somewhat of an animal as he compared it to. He had never held a baby until elizabeth, he was scared he would drop and break her, and he felt REJECTED! Wow yes REJECTED. He was not around for my pregnancy and had not been involved or here. I was huge and different when he returned and it was a shock. Then 2 days later we were parents not just husband and wife anymore. He didn't know how to love me with her around. We were not alone and new parents; lost with no guide book on what to do with this little baby. I'll admit we were not ready to be parents but we were. I spent all my time feeding, bathing, changing diapers, and being a mom and he felt left out. I tried spending time with him but then she cried. It was back to mom duty and when done he was asleep. He would come home from work to a wife who hadn't gotten a chance to shower and had been puked on and looked like hell. I'd give her to him and get a shower and finish cooking dinner and he would do what he could but it was hopeless. It was christmas before we really started back trying to be married again.
We didn't know how to make time for each other and he needed to bond with his daughter but he wanted his wife more because I was familiar and had come first. I never knew it could possibly turned out the way things did when he came home from that first deployment. We still loved each other but it was hard. I loved being a mom and a wife but my husband was suffering. Elizabeth was 6 months old the first time I left her alone with him because he was scared of her; scared of not knowing what to do and how to be a dad. The marine corp tell them what to do, when to do it, and how to do it. And he didn't know how to take care of her because there was no one to tell him what to do and make decisions for him. So I left her and told him a few things to do and hoped it would go okay. He needed a push and needed my trust. Obviously it all worked out but my point of this story is this stuff happens and its okay to discuss it. I wish someone could have warned me or given me a little insight that this stuff happens and its okay and will get better.
So to wives in military if you find yourself or someone you know silent, withdrawn, and overwhelmed with being a new mom and having a husband home from war. Tell her its ok and tell her its okay to talk about there is nothing to be ashamed of.
Just another day in paradise!
Tuesday, August 14, 2012
Life changing Day
If I was trying to win mom of the year; today I would have lost big time! During a routine trip to foodlion for groceries it became nothing of the ordinary. While checking out my daughter decided to hold my hand instead of sitting in cart like I had asked her to do. I told her you have to be still and hold my hand and she was angry with this request so she put her arms up to be held. Of course I said no because im paying and trying to bag my own groceries due to slack employees who see me with a 2 year old and im 5 months pregnant and dont offer to help. So at this moment she reaches up my arm and digs her nails into my forearm and runs out of the automatic double doors into the small road passing by store heading for parking lot. I drop everything and go running after her. She ran out screaming "I hate you" and as any mom this hurts. As she hit the sidewalk before the road I saw the car... She continued to run and the car was still coming. The lady stopped with in an inch of hitting my daughter. My daughter saw me coming and decided to fall out in road and throw a fit while I'm panicked and crying.
My heart stopped a few times I'm sure. I picked her up and the lady in car was too panicked and I explained to her through my tears what happened and she said "hunny I have three kids and this is just one of those things that happen; no worries". I thanked her and a foodlion employee brought my groceries to my truck and loaded them. He asked "mam do you need anything? ". This boggled me but I'm sure he didnt have children so I said no and thanks.
I sat in my truck and cried. I had seen flashes of my daughters life as I saw the car heading straight for her and I felt thankful, scared, and furious all at the same time. She is sitting in her carseat and well needless to say the next event that happened she definitely did not like. Yes I spanked my daughter out of love. She knows better and has to learn from this as well as me too. I'm going to be that crazy parent with the child harness and leash. Being very pregnant I cannot move as quickly as I'd like to have. So now when I go with her to places without my husband which is very often I will have no worries in her running from me and getting away.
I enjoy being a mother and with another baby on the way I have definitely learned a lot over the past 2 years,but I was not prepared for todays events.
Just another day in paradise!
My heart stopped a few times I'm sure. I picked her up and the lady in car was too panicked and I explained to her through my tears what happened and she said "hunny I have three kids and this is just one of those things that happen; no worries". I thanked her and a foodlion employee brought my groceries to my truck and loaded them. He asked "mam do you need anything? ". This boggled me but I'm sure he didnt have children so I said no and thanks.
I sat in my truck and cried. I had seen flashes of my daughters life as I saw the car heading straight for her and I felt thankful, scared, and furious all at the same time. She is sitting in her carseat and well needless to say the next event that happened she definitely did not like. Yes I spanked my daughter out of love. She knows better and has to learn from this as well as me too. I'm going to be that crazy parent with the child harness and leash. Being very pregnant I cannot move as quickly as I'd like to have. So now when I go with her to places without my husband which is very often I will have no worries in her running from me and getting away.
I enjoy being a mother and with another baby on the way I have definitely learned a lot over the past 2 years,but I was not prepared for todays events.
Just another day in paradise!
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